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Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Kissing Chemistry

Woman kissing manA kiss on Valentine's Day can change everything. With the right person and done the right way, it’s spine-tinglingly magical and sends shivers from your neck to your toes.

When the moment is right and lovers make themselves available for the move, lips lock in a place where they don’t have to hold back. Its chemistry is made up of butterflies, chills, lip fireworks, and other memory-making performances.

The fact is, kissing signals our brains to produce oxytocin, a hormone that gives us that wonderful, weak-kneed feeling. And the chemicals that produced that feeling prompt you to want to kiss more and create more, like a love drug. To make sure nothing stops that chemistry-building chemical process, make eye contact.

Eye contact immediately ups the intimacy level of any sexual act. My personal preference is take a few seconds to look eye-to-eye and establish the special moment. After the first kiss, pull back, open your eyes, really look at them, then kiss again. Then, open your eyes once during the kiss to bring the personal touch home.

Using the nose is also important, as some anthropologists believe that kissing evolved from sniffing, as some indigenous cultures rub noses rather than kissing. Humans have very powerful musk glands right underneath the eyes, and each person has a distinct smell. Kissing got started by people smelling each other and they would rub across the nose. Touching the lips was a natural outgrowth. Sampling another person’s scent is a primal urge we share with other animals (including moles, dolphins, turtles and dogs), so take a moment to breathe in.

A kiss, on its own, can be powerful enough. Kiss and only kiss, and see how the chemistry takes over, before you start using hands.

Love Talk

Woman kissing manKissing is such a strong language, it’s easy to wonder whether talking in-between kisses ruins the moment? Not always. In fact, sometimes words can help ratchet up the chemistry. It communicates that you’re in the first stage of what your body wishes was a bigger, closer connection. Your feelings are so huge, you’re having to hold back. This says it’s not just a kiss, it’s the start of something incredible.

Kissing forms also become more personal with time, and the way lovers initiate a kiss will be made up of complex signals that only the two of them can read.

Kissing Facts

Here are some facts to show the benefits a satisfying lip lock can bring into your life:

  1. Like fingerprints or snowflakes, no two lip impressions are alike.
  2. Kissing is good for what ails you. Research shows that the act of smooching improves our skin, helps circulation, prevents tooth decay, and can even relieve headaches.
  3. The average person spends 336 hours of his or her life kissing.
  4. Ever wonder how an "X" came to represent a kiss? Starting in the Middle Ages, people who could not read used an X as a signature. They would kiss this mark as a sign of sincerity. Eventually, the X came to represent the kiss itself.
  5. Kissing releases the same neurotransmitters in the human brain as parachuting, bungee jumping, and running.
  6. In medieval Italy kisses weren't taken, or given, lightly. If a man and a woman were seen embracing in public they could be forced to marry.
  7. Human brains have special neurons that help locate lips in the dark.
  8. Kissing produces the same hormone in the body that firing a gun does.
  9. Canadian porcupines kiss one another on the lips.
  10. Kissing for women helps her relax, burn calories and is a good stress reducer (at least that's what I tell them).

For more about kissing also see: Valentine's Day Special 2006: What's in a Kiss?

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