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Friday, January 13, 2006

Rules to Live Your Life By

Five years ago an ex-girlfriend, someone who I cherish and love dearly and is still a great friend to this day, sent me via email three "golden" rules by which to live your life.

I decided not only to try and follow these, but to make some changes of my own. Over the years I've shared the list through emails, where other friends and people have also contributed to the list. I'm guessing that some of the outside contributions were adapted from great thinkers and observers, but some are just mine adapted only from life.

There are now 18 golden rules.

I've decided to post them here not to get credit, as I know people have started widely sharing these already, but to let readers of this blog get the benefit, too.

Ask yourself how many of the instructions for life below do you follow? Sometimes I have broken some of these rules, but my aim is to follow the list as best I can.

Rarely one rule overtakes another in precendece, for example "don't let a little dispute injure a great relationship" (Rule 6) may have to be overlooked in place of not letting "go of your values" (Rule 9).

But everyone uses their list according to their own lives.

It can't hurt you to try. If you really want to, take pen and paper and write out this list in your own handwriting so that it will work into your brain. Then pin the list up on your wall, on your fridge door or somewhere you can easily see it every day.

And when a problem occurs in your life, take a step back and consult the list before you act, and make sure when you do act you do not break the rule or rules in question.

Try it a day at a time and do your best. No one has the right to ask anything more.

If the quality of your relationship with life gets better as a result, then I'll be very happy, but much more importantly - you'll be very happy.

Instructions For Life

  1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
  2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
  3. Follow the 3R's - Respect for Self, Respect for Others and Respect for all your Actions.
  4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
  5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
  6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great relationship.
  7. When you realized you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
  8. Spend some time alone everyday.
  9. Open arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
  10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
  11. Live a good honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
  12. A loving atmosphere at your home is the foundation for your life.
  13. In disagreements with love ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
  14. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
  15. In a year, go to someplace you've never been before.
  16. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
  17. Judge your success by what you have to give up in order to get it.
  18. Be gentle with the earth!

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