The Art of Surrender 
Today we live in complex societies, side by side with a technology that allows cell phones to vibrate, computers to chirp on schedule, and wrist watches to chime away our hours, where we are sliced and diced into routines of work and sleep.
Ironically, we could use all that technology to be reminded to relax for brief intervals, but often it keeps us walking a windowsill ledge of speedy haste, and it seems almost impossible to find the time to slow down our pace, and to surrender to ourselves for even just a minute. Some people feed off this frenzy, and probably get a high over it - but that is just the way some people are made, and even they will pay an ultimate price when they finally come to realise that being a junkie of any kind is a means that doesn't justify the end.
For one day it happens. Our brains and bodies, finally tired of being ignored, finds the means to remind us we are overdoing it. Sometimes we call this downward slide bad luck, when suddenly, from out of the blue, we start to get clumsy, or shut down, or everything we seem to do goes wrong for some inexplicable reason.
But there is a reason, because this is actually a nudge from inside or a spiritual tap on our shoulder. For some, it can even be a feeling much like sleepiness, forcing you to wake up and start to let go.
Stopping to Create Balance
Stopping to create some balance in our lives will bring us closer to our real intentions. It will help us ask and possibly answer to a helpful degree the question: What do we really want out of life?
To be more aligned with ourselves is a strong intention, but we first have to discover whether that is our intention.
Our intention is different than a goal or desired result. They are more specific than intentions. Goals and desired results are helpful to identify and good things to aim for; intention is the energy that powers all actions. I like to think of it as the starting place in our minds, where the thought behind the thought can be found, which underpins our words and propels our actions.
We may be aware of our intentions or not. However, by surrendering and creating some balance, we will be making ourselves more aware (more intentional) about our intentions.
This is more than simply thinking before speaking, or thinking before acting, or being aware of the brain processes we go through in making daily decisions.
If we are open and honest, and not afraid to be so, our intention just flows, like a river. If we lack the courage to let go and be open, it can be difficult to get to the essence of our intention. When that happens, we find it difficult not only to communicate with ourselves, but with others - we start to deceive ourselves and try to create a false environment that backs up that deceit.
It is then we begin to see things not as they really are, but as we are. Subsequently, when challenges come along and we cannot overcome them, we get confused and upset, and blame everything and everyone else apart from ourselves, because in our own version of events we (as the hero) can never be wrong.
Or can we?
If we surrender to ourselves, and search out our real intention, we can answer the question to what we want out from life, and also whether we can accept our own failings and be courageous enough to own up to them.
It's not an easy thing to do. It makes us feel vulnerable, like that feeling that we get if we were to let our head go back in a back bend; the chest and heart literally opening up can be such a challenge for many people.
We need balance in that, too. More so, in fact.
But by doing so - like a confessional for want of a better word - we might come to realise that this is the perfect bridge for us to reach our real intention, and connect honestly with others.
Many Rivers to Cross
When we have a raging river to cross, a bridge is very helpful. A bridge helps us to formulate a positive idea or intention when we are in a less-than-positive mindset. It can be a buttress to give confidence and self-esteem. As a metaphor, the bridge serves as a connection between where we are and where we want to be in consciousness.
If we are not there, then surely it is time for us to ask why we haven't built that bridge?
Moreover, we shouldn't simply look for a bridge when we need to step over the raging river to help us to get over the flow. We should also look to build bridges because it is the right thing to do. For example, when we want to make a change in our life, when things aren't working well, or when we feel blocked or stuck, then that is the time to get some balance back into our lives - but we should also maintain that balance so we can be strong enough to help others.
We will no longer be concerned about our own egos, and walking over others to get to where we want to go - because we'll have our own bridges to get there, and in the right way.
And when everything is flowing in our life exactly as we want it, this is when enlightenment comes: As long as the bridge helps us, we keep it; when that is no longer needed, we let that go, too.